Women have, on the whole, a thirst to feel themselves satisfying to the
men they love and respect. They yearn to sense their partners’ approval
and pleasure toward them. I imagine fewer marital difficulties stem from
conflicts of authority, as from wives feeling unsatisfactory or
undesirable. This in turn leads to anxiety, depression, and bitterness.
Underneath petty conflicts for control may be a woman trying to wrest
back what she doesn’t feel herself to be receiving from a man, a sense
of respect and value. She desires to be desirable; to see it in his face
and actions. Husbands ought to love their wives as Christ loves the
Church, which means assuring them convincingly of their heartfelt
acceptance and worth as companions, helpers, and lovers.
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Titus 3:3-8
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2 comments:
I partly agree with your statement. A woman does have a need to feel that she is desired by and satisfies her husband, but that is only part of the equation. She also has an innate need to respect her husband; for this to happen the man must be respectable. When a woman does not respect her husband, this leads to anxiety, depression, discontent, bitterness and may also breed attraction for another man in her sphere whom she does respect … and thus divorce (even in the church). Of course a woman cannot simply ask a man, “are you strong?” and so she tests. Strong, dominant men pass these tests and are respected by women. Weak, submissive or inattentive men do not and are not.
Husbands in their desire to be Christlike must avoid the notion that this means they must be nice. Jesus is not nice. “He is not a tame lion.”
We must put away this faulty perception that women are virtuous by nature and if not … it is some man’s fault. This is not Biblical. Sin is real and thriving in both genders, though exhibited in different ways.
It is ok to put a woman on a pedestal … as long as you view her from a throne.
Hello, Scott. I largely agree with what you've said. The notion of respect is taken as a given in my post, hence I wrote, "a thirst to feel themselves satisfying to the men they love and respect."
Thank for your comments, especially the last sentence, which is very pithy and memorable.
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